…Finishing with discovering ourselves, we need now to accept ourselves and improve our lives, and starting with:
3. Self-acceptance: And this action is what will lead you to your self-esteem and self-love. Have you ever noticed that we like honest people and we respect them more, if yes, I want to tell you that it’s the same for yourself, you would want to respect yourself because you are honest with your qualities, your beliefs, your values…, to fall in love with yourself and feel respected. This step is so easy to explain as you see, but so hard to reach. It’s a journey, not something easy to get to, and you may struggle to accept the person you are at the end. You may feel disappointed, and sad after discovering all your feelings after the first step, but trust me, you’ll not truly love yourself till you know it.
I will give you here an example to understand me more: It’s like two people getting married without knowing each other, in the end, they may face plenty of problems, and they may even get divorced in the future, that’s why I’m telling you to know yourself good enough to love it.
What I want you to know is you’re not alone in this journey, we’re all here with you, I feel how you feel because I get disappointed too whenever I discover something not good about myself, but I need to know it to change it or fix it or even accept it if I can’t do something about it, but there’s also good news, you are going to experience something so beautiful, you are going to enjoy the journey, you’re going to love yourself every time you know something about yourself. So learn to accept all that you’ve gone or done, whether it’s your fault or others’ fault, either it’s something wrong for you or good, either it’s something you like about you or you don’t like about yourself.
So, we said you’ll forgive yourself first for everything you have experienced before, I know it’s tough, yet you need to move on for yourself because you don’t deserve to stick to a specific bad memory or a particular time.
There’s another thing I believe in is that everything happens for a reason, everything happens for your good either you see it or not, it meant to help you at the end of the day, trust me. You are meant to be happy, loved, strong, successful. You just need to have patience. We all have something bad we regret maybe or something someone did to us, we kept blaming ourselves for it, or even we don’t like the way we reacted to something, all that is okay, you are a good person and you did so well too because you learned from what happened. So, overcome all the memories and start again! And keep in mind that forgiving people will help you more than holding grudges all these years, you do this for yourself, perhaps, they don’t deserve to forgive them, but you need to forgive them to repose, forget them, and move on.
4. Change yourself: and by reaching this place, I can admit that you love yourself, so I want to thank you for your hard-working, okay, so let us be realistic here! We can’t love and accept everything in us because this way we’re destroying not building ourselves, and neither can’t say that we want to change everything on us, but we can do both with some effort, this way we are dividing everything into three things, first, things we want to change, second things we want to improve and last things we want to accept and love about ourselves. It may be a quality we want to change, a habit we want to incorporate into our lives, a memory to accept.
This step is never-ending, it’s a process that never ends, every year, month, week, you need to ask yourself, check your habits, make improvements, you’ll work on it.
All this is going to lead you to your self-love and self-esteem. You don’t even need to search for it, It will come to you.
But keep in mind that those four steps or could be more for other people, this journey never ends, you want to keep updating, and discovering yourself, and looking up for your best version of yourself.
From now on, if something felt wrong, have a sit and think about it, playback the scenario, and do this for yourself first, because you have principles and beliefs that tell you how to treat people, how you should be, and when something feels wrong fo you.
So first of all, be honest so you can figure out the problem and fix it before it grows up to something you can’t control then, (All traumas, bad memories, and people we lose forever, starts smaller, and ends up bigger than you think).
Whatever the result is, accept it, apologize to yourself, then to the person you hurt, and learn from it.
We are just human beings, and we all make mistakes no matter how old are we?. What matters is to have good intentions, so don’t worry, you aren’t alone, I make mistakes sometimes that makes me feel that I don’t think with my brain, but it’s just how we’re born, we’re born to make mistakes and learn from them to accept ourselves, staying humble and modest knowing that we make big mistakes and we should accept them, learning to love ourselves regardless of what we do, improve ourselves and our lives and to live a better life that we deserve.
Thank you!
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